Life happens...

I have two final exams in line and yet I cannot let this just pass without writing about it. Life happens.......and is happening all around me in so many myriad forms that I cannot help but stand and stare at it for sometime.

I don't know if it is true for everyone, so maybe I should write about it as from my perspective. But time and time again I have always got confirmation that the situation I am in or the feelings that I have or the thoughts crowding around my head ..... have been felt by others, have been thought by others, have been experienced by others....(those others by the way are called friends)... and in that confirmation I can make a generalisation.

Every girl or guy for that matter always dreams of that someone special in their life. That just one person who is so much like you but yet so much different that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. What is amazing is how it gets manifested differently through different ages.

I remember when I was in school, it was such a big deal to have a boyfriend. It was something which caused your friends envy, made you a very talked about item and just the fact that you have a boyfriend gave you so much more importance. I don't think that any of us had the maturity at that time to understand even what the word "relationship" stands for. But I am sure that even having a sense of one was enough to make a whole world of difference.

Come college, you were much more grown up and a boy friend just for the sake of showing off did not make any sense anymore. You knew it was more than that, that it was a commitment and yet I know many of us who went into it just for the fun of it. I have seen very few college relationships actually go the whole way, but when they have they really are something remarkable.

Ofcourse, by then among us who are still searching or not searching and just waiting for life to happen, there are a lot of crushes, flirtations but somehow none of them stand the test of time or of the heart. You are left lonely yet again and still searching.

Professional life, and there is so much of time that you get to spend with people and get to know them better that this is probably where most of us commit finally. Ofcourse time plays a major hand in it, but also the fact that we have independence financially, able to sustain and maintain a life of our own.

However for me there is another phase of life which happened. University. Its a very different stage of your life (as are all the rest) in the fact that you have reached a level of maturity, where you know what you want from life, what your goals are, what your constraints are and you know the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But then since when did life happen on your terms. Even then, life springs such an array of surprises I never thought possible. Among the marriages of old collegemates, both arranged and love, I still see new relationships developing. New people falling in love and rediscovering themselves and I am so awed by the relationship that is love . I don't think there is anything that can be as sublime as the feeling of love. It makes you rise and yet you "fall" :). It is so many things, that it is difficult to put it into words. But time and time again that I have seen it happen I have been awed. Not everyone is lucky to find love or live the rest of their lives with the person they love, or maybe for many it happens at some point, but not at the right one. Its not as easy as it sounds, its not something which happens without its own demands, or that there aren't any compromises involved. But in itself...... it is so complete.

Hence, life happens........
I am still wondering what the point of the entire writeup is but anyways......sometimes yo uwrite just for the heck of it :)