What is common among the following ?

So guess already !!

Chak de chak de (Hum Tum)
Jaane woh kaise log the jinke pyar ko pyar mila..(Pyaasa)
Woh shaam kuch ajeeb thi (Khamoshi)
Mitwa (Kabhi Alvida naa kehna)

Ok please don't beat me up for this. Answer will differ from person to person and there is no logic unless you brilliantly come up with something. Its just a timepass pj !! :P

What is with people and relationships?

Till date I have seen very few people who have, once they have committed to a relationship actually been able to divide time proportionally between friends and their better halves. And everytime I see such a pair I am filled more with respect and awe. Because according to me that not only shows that the pair involved are mature enough to maintain their relationship at a certain level, and do not suffer from "I have to talk to you every minute" or "I have to spend each remaining minute of my life with you" syndromes. It also shows (to me) that the pair know how to have fun without being dependent on their other half all the time, they know how to proportion and enjoy their time among their friends as also with their bfs/gfs. It teaches me how important it is to "balance".

When I was in college, (not that I am not in one now), once somebody was seeing someone (if I may put it that way) the lesser you would get to see of them. They only wanted to share things with that one person and spend time with that one person. With all due respect, that they were in a new-found relationship or love or whatever, for heaven's sake your pair is the person you will end up spending the rest of your life with. But as far as your friends are concerned, that will never be true because your paths will diverge.

But I am being unjust here in not attributing sufficient credit to the fact that a relationship is where you feel loved and wanted and adored and respected. So it isn't surprising that you would want to spend maximum time here. What is surprising is the factor that time plays...... in your relationships, in your friendships, in your family. Everybody feels loved and wanted when you give them a little of your time ...... it increases their self-esteem that you actually consider them fun or comfortable to be with. And time for others is probably what you would not have in a relationship :).

Forgive me for my incoherent blabberings. I think its an irremediable infection.

Nature, treats, money and me

"I walked with my coat hugged tightly round me. As the snow began to fall thicker, I shoved my hands deeper into my pockets and bent down slightly to carve a way through the drift." This to the best of my knowledge are the first few lines of an essay I had written in class IV. I even remember I was sitting in the near to last benches that day. And I absolutely loved writing about such things, .......... I was a great Ruskin Bond fan (still am)! And somehow the words which captured the moods of nature seemed to me more beautiful than any other. I would like to go back to doing that. But I think there are a lot of things which have changed since then, principally ...I have grown older. :) And so it just doesn't happen anymore, that I can sit and write a laid back article on brown, autumn maple leaves ruffling under your boots..... yes yes , romantic, how boring and a plethora of adjectives. But then there is something which is a refuge for everyone ...this is it for me. And in that one of the pictures I have is of a frozen lake with frosted trees showered in white snow, standing at the edges ...and me sitting there in this red hat and muffler with a black coat :). (I think I borrowed this scene from the movie "Love story".) Maybe someday I shall live to see it too.

What is it with people and treats. Why do people go on the back-foot whenever it comes to giving a treat ? I thought that that is something that should come naturally. When you feel happy and want to spend time with someone, when you want to show someone that you really appreciate their being in your life or what they have done for you ..... you would never hesitate to give a treat. So the fact that anybody would make excuses in giving one, means that either these factors do not exist or that money matters more.

How much does your emotional quotient matter in your life ? I know IQ matters a lot...isn't it what they say quantifies your intelligence! I have a very average IQ I know, I wonder how much of EQ I have. Does it really matter to have some or is it perfectly all right to feel nothing about anybody ? Is it ok to make relationships stepping stones, and not live on one as soon as its worth is lost ? Is the amount of money that you make at the end of the day matter more ? If you were very rich, would you be happy ? And why in heaven's name do I ever ask questions when all the answers that they have are personal opinions.

Don't bother answering them , they are all questions to myself.

Sometimes and yoga and waltz

Well I am listening to "Everybody Hurts" by R.E.M ...so if thats any indication :). I am sure everybody in this world (and sorry for the generalization) fears something, dislikes something. I figured that life tends to throw more of what you dislike at you ... and the Einstein in me figured that its not that life throws more of it at you, its just that you tend to remember these more, more than the last time you smiled or the last time you laughed till tears came to your eyes.

(That reminds me, its been so long since I laughed till my stomach ached. Oh come, I am in this utterly despondent mood and I wish I could just snap out of it !)

I am not going to talk about what I fear most or dislike most or why I cry more often than not : "Why me"! But lets talk about what I have been doing new. I have been busy in Yoga and Dancing. And while yoga leaves me aching and groaning ........with muscles that I never knew existed ,writhing in pain everytime I move, at the same time there are so many things going on side by side. For one, there is a yoga class every day and each class is one of Iyengar, Power , Hatha yoga. So everyday, I get to see new people try out the yoga postures like me, some beginners who fall and get up like me. Others practised and experienced. I won't lie. I find yoga postures difficult. When I am balancing on one leg with both hands in the air, the only thing I can see are the beads of perspiration rolling down my forehead.
But did you ever know about why yoga has all these benefits. The simple trick is that, when you are doing these postures, there is no way in the world that you can think of anything else. So you are all there. So what, I am always all there!! Isn't that what you thought just now. Well think again. Even when you are reading this, there will be a million things swimming through your head, the yet to be cooked dinner, the unsolved program. Its very difficult to be all there. ... at anytime. And yoga teached you just that. Pretty neat according to me. But don't worry I am not trying to indoctrinate you or something.

Now that we are done with yoga, lets move to dancing. I watched this movie while I was in India. Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez, and the movie name just might be "Shall we dance"! Have you ever seen the waltzes or the salsas or the tangos ? Here I think I am going out of my breadth, because I know many people engage in learning to dance. India is all alive with salsa at the moment. Each dance is beautiful .....at the same time learning to dance is a lot of fun. Its one of the things I have always wanted to do. And I loved it. Especially the waltz. There is quite something about just twirling round the room with those steps ....effortlessly. The girl with her neck carved over the man's shoulder, her hand resting gently, and off you go. Especially if your partner is good (and mine was) ......... you will be left flying as if you were a ballerina. And so goes my love story with dance ...especially the waltz. Part of my childhood was Strauss and Tom and Jerry dancing to it, :) Its a great feeling to have been in their footsteps.

Sometimes I feel that the most difficult thing in the world is to get along with people. There are such a mixed bag of emotions and its so difficult atleast for me to get the proportions and reactions right. So far , I have always shied away from being aggressive, I still do. Its more like the ostrich head in the sand kind of attitude, if you know what I mean. And thats why the start of the blog ... its therapeutic for me :).